Let's Talk About Ghosting in the Professional World
- agweber009
- Oct 29, 2024
- 2 min read
Let’s Talk About Ghosting in the Professional World
Unfortunately, ghosting isn’t just for dating apps or spooky season. It's become an uncomfortable norm in corporate America. Too often, professionals offer support or opportunities to their network only to disappear without follow-through. Recruiters and hiring managers frequently delay responses or skip them entirely for candidates in the interview process. Verbal commitments on deals, job offers, and networking help are often made—and then left in the air. So, here’s the real question: Why is this acceptable?
Why Ghosting is Problematic for Everyone
In today’s world, over 85% of job placements and business deals are driven by networking and referrals. People post daily on LinkedIn about wanting to support others, keep their network open, and lend a helping hand. But offering help and then ghosting because of overwhelm or lack of genuine intent not only provides false hope but also chips away at trust, tarnishing both personal relationships and professional reputations.
A Personal Experience on True Connection
Recently, I ran into a sales leader who was one of my first mentors in tech. We happened to cross paths at a local coffee shop (my go-to spot between meetings), and our conversation picked up effortlessly. Beyond his impressive career progression, I respect the genuine connection we’ve maintained over the years. I know if I ever needed help, he’d be there, not because I expected it, but because our relationship is built on trust and authenticity.
Moving Forward: Prioritize Integrity Over Convenience
Take time to reflect on the relationships in your network. Friendship, past work together, or a casual social acquaintance doesn’t entitle anyone to your support. But if you do commit, make it genuine. If you're uncertain or unable to follow through, it’s better to decline than to leave someone hanging.
Imagine the impact we could have if we all chose transparency over silence. Most professionals would prefer a polite “no” over an empty promise. If you are a hiring manager, a client, or a vendor and circumstances change, have the courtesy to send a quick message. Let’s leave ghosting to the Halloween goblins and raise our professionalism to the level it deserves.
Well written Amy! As a tech professional in the job market (thankfully, no more after early November) I have been ghosted more times than I can count. Not only is it unprofessional, it burns bridges that could be helpful in the future. I know we are all busy, but we should MAKE time for a five minute phone call or two minute email just to acknowledge our commitment and connection. One year at a Cisco GSX event, our keynote was the founder of "Because I Said I Would" - his entire message and business was built around the premise of following through. At the end of the day, a professional is only as good as his or her word.